Would you be comfortable giving your partner a threesome? I mean seriously. I don’t mean “yes I want to please my man so I’ll do whatever he wants, including a threesome.” I mean would you be okay having a threesome and would you enjoy it? I’ve always wondered why this was such a huge thing in relationships it seems like everyone is plagued with the choice on whether they want to bring someone else into the bed or not. I know many females personally who still haven’t recovered from the mere thought of their partner asking for a threesome. I would consider having a threesome, but I think that I would have to talk for months maybe years on what I’m okay with. Which leads me to believe that a threesome isn’t even as simple as it sounds.
What is a threesome? A threesome is group sex, where a couple brings an extra person in to engage in intercourse. It also doesn’t even have to be a couple, it can just be three people who want to have sex. GENERALLY, from what I’ve seen, the male proposes the idea to have a threesome. A female can also propose the idea of a threesome.
From personal experience, every time I was ever asked to participate in a threesome I played it off like I was cool with it but so many thoughts went through my head like… Am I not enough? What’s so good about a threesome? Should I kill this nigga? Why the fuck would he ask ME for a threesome?
My thing never was disinterest in a threesome. My concern always was the fact that he wanted to involve another woman like I wasn’t enough and then what if he actually fell in love with fucking her? He’s going to try to get his 1 on 1 and that I’m not having. A man can be strategic in wanting a threesome I see some men using this as a way to get his cake and eat it too with no consequences because his girl agreed, but be aware. Be aware of a man using you for his own sexual gratification and one that’s not concerned about how you feel and just wants to push a threesome on you. Don’t do anything you’re not okay with. NEVER let anyone TELL you what you have to do to be with them. If it makes you uncomfortable tell they ass hold on hold on holiday 😭
Every other convo he’s asking you for a threesome.
Every other convo he’s asking you to find a girl to participate.
If you’re open to trying new things, a badass sexual being, then that’s wonderful. I’m glad that you have this kind of mindset when it comes to sex. I don’t know if you’re detached or just simply into all things different. Women ARE strong enough to handle anything so, I’m not surprised. Some couples are full on swingers. BUT, Are you the girl who thinks she’s okay with it and deep down gets into it and sees her man caressing and penetrating another girl and can’t stomach it? You want to kill them both. It’s like they’re cheating right in front of your eyes! Which brings me into two important factors when CONSIDERING A THREESOME. Nobody’s saying be boring, bitch.
Talk to each other about what brought on the fantasy of a threesome in the first place. Fellas, be honest with your girl and ensure that she knows that your want for a threesome is out of fantasy and not unfufillment. (Ladies as well if the this is your idea)
2. Set boundaries
If a threesome is agreed upon by both parties, then great. Talk about what will and will not be tolerated. Like can he fuck but not eat her out? Butt stuff? Talk about your limits or the whole thing will fall through. Nothing is worse than a failed threesome.
Lets say you do go through with the threesome, and now you want more… Communicate. Threesomes are like weed. Gateway drug.